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Timeline & Checklist

Timeline & Checklist

This checklist and suggested timeline is provided as a guide for planning your B’nei Mitzvah service and celebration. It does not cover educational requirements or timelines. Educational requirements and related timelines will be provided by your child’s teachers and Rabbi Edery, and is individualized for each child as he or she moves through the education process.

Key Contacts and Resources

B’nei Mitzvah Date B’nei Mitzvah Coordinator (Larry Ginsburg)
Torah & Haftorah Preparation Tutors (coordinated by Hal Zenick)
Temple/Facility Use Form Beth Shalom Office
B’nei Mitzvah Project Rabbi Edery
Service Outline Hal Zenick
Speech Rabbi Edery
Oneg/Kiddush Sisterhood
Hebrew Learn in Hebrew School
Hebrew Testing Hal Zenick

2 Years Prior

  •  Set the date. At Orientation….Typically, the B’nei Mitzvah Coordinator will reach out to eligible families at this time.  You will need to work with the Ritual Committee’s B’nei Mitzvah Coordinator on setting the date to ensure there are no conflicts with Beth Shalom’s other scheduled events, holidays, or celebrations. The B’nei Mitzvah Coordinator will make sure your agreed-upon date is put in the Master Calendar (once fees and Hebrew Skills Evaluation Testing is completed).

1 – 2 Years Prior

  •  You must contact Hal Zenick, and have a Hebrew Skills Evaluation. Then, you will be directed to contact Rabbi Edery, who will meet with you to review the whole ceremony, and give you the booklet to learn the Torah and Haftarah.
  • Think about your options and budget. Decide on what kind of celebration you want to have – there are no rules. It can be elaborate or as simple as you want. Think about what you liked and disliked at other B’nei Mitzvah celebrations.
  • Make a tentative guest list – family, friends, Synagogue class-mates, business associates, etc. and begin to gather mailing addresses.
  • Visit possible sites – hotels, restaurants, party rooms, etc., and talk with caterers.  Past B’nei Mitzvah families make wonderful sources of information. Remember, your “affair” can be catered by Sisterhood and held at Beth Shalom.
  • Book your site. This should be done as early as possible to ensure availability for the date you want.

9 – 12 Months Prior

  • Begin learning your torah and haftorah portions.  Hal Zenick will contact you to set up regular learning sessions with Hal or his B’nei Mitzvah tutors who will meet with the B’nei Mitzvah child on Sunday mornings to prepare him/her.  An initial appointment with Hal Zenick should be scheduled about 10-14 months before your planned date.
  • Meet with the synagogue office manager to complete a Request for Building Use Form and pay building use fees
  •  As the B’nei Mitzvah students are ready to begin working with Hal or a tutor, you must schedule (through our office) the first meeting with the Rabbi. At this time, topics covered will be a general overview of the ceremony and the preparation process, family or child specific concerns, and the Rabbi will demarcate the Torah and Haftarah readings the students will actually read and chant.
  •  Think about and decide on themes and color schemes.
  • Book the photographer, florist and music, if these are in your plans.
  • Discuss the need for tutoring with Hal Zenick or your child’s Hebrew teacher.

6 – 9 Months Prior

  • Reserve a block of hotel rooms for out-of-town guests. Plan the weekend experience for out-of-town guests – do you want to plan transportation, meals and/or activities for Friday through Sunday, or leave people to their own devices?
  • Review the service outline with the Rabbi. Also, consider your music choices for the service, and think about who you may want to include in the service.  There is no instrumental accompanist set to play during services. Several Beth Shalom members often participate musically when directly invited/contracted to do so by the B’nei Mitzvah families.
  • Begin the B’nei Mitzvah project.  Each B’nei Mitzvah student is highly encouraged to complete a tikkun olam or tzedakah project as part of his/her preparation. The 7th grade curriculum in our ReligiousSchool includes several Mitzvah Activities classes, designed to be an ongoing Class Mitzvah Project.

3 – 6 Months Prior

  • Order invitations, thank-you notes, napkins, kippot/yarmulkas, Tallit, Tallit bag. Our Sisterhood has some catalogs to help you order these items.
  • Firm up plans with caterer.
  • Order the cake
  • Contact cantorial assistants, singers, or other members of synagogue that you want to include in the service to book the date and discuss service plans.
  • Work on schedules, maps, transportation, meal, and hotel information and anything else that will need to be mailed to out-of-town guests. Decide if you want to mail this information with invitations or provide it separately.
  • Meet with the synagogue office manager to complete a Request for Building Use Form and pay building use fees.

8 – 12 Weeks Prior

  • Mail out-of-town invitations. Keep a record of responses.
  • Send notice to Beth Shalom Newsletter with a picture and biography of your child (interests, school, family, etc.) The deadline is the first week of the month before your child’s B’nei Mitzvah.
  • Make Oneg arrangements. Finalize plans for setting up and cleaning up for Oneg.

6 – 8 Weeks Prior

  • Mail in-town invitations.
  • Double-check all arrangements.
  • Work on the service outline with the Rabbi  aliyot, readings, and cantor.
  • Finalize the service outline, music choices, reading assignments, and aliyot.  Review your draft service program for the B’nei Mitzvah with Hal and then the Rabbi, and/or email copy of the document for review before printing it.

2 – 6 Weeks Prior

  • Get Hebrew names for the aliyot and provide to Hal Zenick & Rabbi.
  • Reconfirm numbers with catering.
  • Write family speeches.
  • Let the people who will be participating in the service know what readings or texts they will be reading – the complete Siddur/Prayer book is accessible to all on our website.  Also there, you will find texts and recordings of aliyah blessings to be shared with people being called for aliyot, so that they have time to prepare..
  • Send “childcare options during services” letter to friends and family members who may be bringing young children to services.
  • Decide if you are going to have a candle lighting ceremony during the reception.  If so, plan remarks, select participants, purchase candles and candle holders to prepare for ceremony.

1 – 2 Weeks Prior

  • Prepare welcome gifts for out of town guests. Include maps and any other information your guests will need for the weekend.
  • Make place cards and other necessary last minute items.
  • Make plans to transport kids and out-of-town guests from services to reception, if needed.