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Service Outline

Service Outline

The following is an outline for a standard Shabbat Morning Service led by Bnei Mitzvah.   Please keep in mind:

  • While all services include most of these prayers and readings, there is room for the Bnei Mitzvah family to make some choices about what prayers and readings are included. When our Siddur offers a choice of alternative readings for one same section, the Bnei Mitzvah’s family may choose any of the alternative readings provided.
  • Please use this outline as you plan on blessings/readings to be designated for family and/or friends to lead. For a few of our prayers, the person leading it should be a Jew, and this is indicated in the outline. If there is no such indication, the prayer may be lead by either a Jewish or a non-Jewish friend or family member. It is our custom always to invite spouses – whether Jewish or not – to join their partner in any role or participation in the service. This applies also to those called for an Aliyah to the Torah.
  • The final service outline will be designed in coordination with the Rabbi, Hal Zenick, and each family.  Then when you have decided what friends or family members will recite the blessings for an Aliyah, remove the Torah from the Ark, and dress the Torah, please complete the Aliyah Worksheet and return to Hal Zenick.
  • Music enhances the service. We encourage you to include a variety of songs, to have a musician providing instrumental support (many of those who lead our regular Shabbat services may do this if you invite them), and to bring additional music.
PAGE OPENING SONG DECIDED BY FAMILY (from any song that is in the Prayer Book)
p. 10 Blessing for Tallit: The giving of the Tallit can be done by relatives close to the B’nei Mitzvah, most typically the parents or grandparents. The student recites the blessing over the Tallit.
p. 10 Ma Tovu: Student will chant first and then read remainder in English.
p. 10: For Body and Health Student, or may be assigned to relative or friend
p. 10 For Spirit and Personality Student, or may be assigned to relative or friend
p. 11 Blessing for Torah: Read in Hebrew by student.
p. 11 Waking Up to a New Day: Student chants in Hebrew, responsively
p. 12-14 Learning from the Talmud Select one of the readings in these pages (choose one of the 7 sections – not more, not less); it may be assigned to relative or friend.
p. 15 Blessed is the One: This blessing can be read by the student, or relative or friend.
p. 15-16 Ashrei (optional) Student chants in Hebrew
p. 17-18 Readings from the Psalms
Optional: you may select one section, reading or song; it may be assigned to relative or friend.
p. 19 Psalm 150 – Haleluyah
Sung by the Congregation
p. 20 Reader’s Kaddish Student
p. 21 Barechu
Yotzer Or
Student reads first line in Hebrew, and rest of section in English
p. 23-24 Revelation/Ahavah Rabbah Rabbi
p. 25-27 Shema and V’Ahavta Student
p. 28 Redemption (Geulah) or
Truth in Which We Trust
Select either the top or the bottom reading. This section can be assigned, in Hebrew or English, to a Jewish friend or relative
p. 29 Mi Khamokha Student chants in Hebrew
p. 30 Amidah Student chants in Hebrew
p. 31 Consecration (Kedushah) Student chants
p. 31 Kedushat Ha Yom Select either the reading at bottom of p.31, or the reading at top of p. 32.    Student reads in English
p. 32 Worship
The section “Avodah –Service of Worship” may be read (optional), in English, by anyone designated.
Student then leads singing in Hebrew at the bottom
p. 33 Hodaah – Gratitude Select one of the three sections on this page. Student, or someone assigned, leads in English.
p. 34 Yismekhu / VeShamru Choose one of these two songs.  Student or Cantorial Soloist leads
p. 35 Shalom – Peace Student or Cantorial Soloist lead singing Shalom Rav (at the top)
May be followed by the next reading, in English. (optional)
We take two minutes for silent meditation, and/or to follow the readings on pages 36 -39 individually. This time may be enhanced with appropriate instrumental music, by anyone who may provide adequate music. This is a good opportunity to involve anyone musically talented among family and friends.
p. 39 Oseh Shalom or Yhiu Leratzon Student leads singing one of these songs
p. 47 The Reading of Torah Student leads singing in Hebrew the first section
As an honor, a family member or Jewish friend/couple can be asked to come up to the Bimah and remove the Torah from the Aron HaKodesh (Ark of the Holy).
p. 47 Vayehi Binsoah Student leads singing in Hebrew
L’dor V’dor Symbolically passing the Torah from one generation to the next. Grandparents and parents come up to the Bimah for a ceremonial passing of the Torah across generations – from first to last – to the Bar or Bat Mitzvah.
p. 48 Shema Student leads
p. 48 Hakafah – Torah Processional The cantorial soloist and Rabbi lead singing as the Bnei Mitzvah, accompanied by their family, carry the Torah around and back to the Bimah.
p. 48-49 Torah Blessings and Reading A person or couple is called for a blessing before the reading of verses from Torah – this is an “Aliyah”. We may have up to six “Aliyot” (plural), plus one for the Bnei Mitzvah. Ideally, you will have the Hebrew name for each person and his/her parents to facilitate calling up that individual to recite the Torah Blessing by their Hebrew name. The Hebrew name is not a requirement, but this is a special opportunity to mention it if we have one, and we know it.
Misheberakh – Prayer for Healing Rabbi
p. 50 Parent’s Prayer Following their Aliyah to the Torah, parents remain by the Bimah. Then the Bnei Mitzvah has his/her Aliyah. Then parents recite (together or alternatively) this prayer.
p. 51 V’Zot HaTorah/
Lifting of the Torah
The Cantorial soloist sings as the Torah is lifted. You can choose one person to lift the Torah, if they are experienced, and one to three people to dress the Torah. Dressing the Torah can be a good role for younger siblings and relatives.
*We ask families to provide an English and Hebrew version of the Torah and Haftarah readings in a booklet, so all congregants can follow the text as Torah is read.
Rabbi will assist in preparing this, at your request.
p. 51 Haftarah Blessings and chanting Student
Returning the Torah to the Ark – this honor can bestow on a Jewish relative of friend
p. 52 Yehalelu and Etz Chaim Student and Cantorial Soloist
The following elements can be done in the order suggested below or in another order, if you prefer. You can also add blessings or presentations to meet the needs of your family.
Bar Mitzvah D’Var Torah (Sermon) and Thank you’s
Presentation of Gifts by Beth Shalom Officers
Parents’ Comments
Rabbi’s comments
p. 50 Priestly Blessing Rabbi
p. 53-54 Aleinu Student
p. 55 Kaddish Rabbi/Cantorial Soloist
p. 56-63 Closing Songs
The choice of a song is left up the B’nei Mitzvah family.
p. 64 HaMotzi and Kiddush
The Bnei Mitzvah and their family lead Kiddush and HaMotzi. Other family members or friends can also be invited to join at the Bimah for these blessings.